‘My boyfriend keeps bringing up another woman – her identity makes this weirder’

A woman has shared her frustration over her boyfriend’s constant praise for another woman, causing tension in their relationship.

The 30-year-old took to the internet to vent about her two-year relationship with her partner, who she describes as family-oriented and caring. However, his admiration for this ‘other woman’ is something she can’t ignore. Surprisingly, the woman in question is not a co-worker or neighbour, but his younger sister.

“Recently, however, his younger sister (32F) seems to be coming up more frequently in our day-to-day conversations, and it’s starting to bother me,” she anonymously shared on Reddit. She gave examples of him saying: “For example, the other day we were talking about a new movie that came out, and he says: ‘My sister has always been my favourite person to talk about movies [and] movie critiques with’. I recently have been considering a career change, and he would say things like: ‘My sister went through the same thing before, and she handled it so gracefully/masterfully/logically (etc etc etc)’.”

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While she thinks it’s ‘so lovely’ that he’s proud of his sister, she claims it’s now impossible to discuss anything without mention of his sibling, which is becoming ‘quite tedious’.

She added: “Like, I can’t talk about myself or anything with him without him telling me about how great his sister is. And it’s not like she’s a child / significantly younger or anything where it would be considered ‘cute’. We’re all pretty old (lol).”, reports the Mirror.

“I’ll do certain things sometimes (like the other day I stacked dirty dishes when clearing the table) and he would say something like, ‘If my sister were here that would bother her so much…’, ‘My sister hates it when people…’. Last week I snapped back and said: ‘Well, she’s not here is she? ‘”.

Mystified by his behaviour, the woman is at a crossroads on what to do next. After trying to confront him, and getting brushed aside, she’s turning to others asking: “What do I do in this situation? Should I talk about it or let it be? I have siblings myself, so know that saying something like ‘you talking about your sister all the time is very annoying’ would be a hard [conversation].”

Her story has sparked quite a conversation on Reddit, drawing many comments from the community. A concerned user responded: “It’s like he is negging you by comparing you to his sister. Does he put you down in other ways too or make you doubt yourself or ruin your confidence? “.

Another pointed out the strangeness of the situation, commenting: “”It’s also weird that he’s comparing his girlfriend to his sister so much anyway. He’s in a romantic relationship with you and his sister is his family. It’s just icky.”

Meanwhile, someone else chimed in saying: “You should absolutely talk to him. Let him know you love his sister and it’s not about jealousy. You’d just like it if he focused more on you when you’re talking about yourself.”

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