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Rest revolution: Women need to get downtime to recover from exhaustion

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Rest revolution: Women need to get downtime to recover from exhaustion

We’re living in the age of the hustle. We laud people like Elon Musk, who boasts about spending 100 hours a week at work and scoffs at the notion of needing rest. Yet, if you pay attention to the online world Musk has played a part in creating, you’ll notice that people are beginning to question the wisdom of this mindset. All over Facebook, Instagram and X, there are hundreds of thousands of posts with hashtags like #restisradical and #restisresistance.

If you look closely, you’ll see this movement is being driven by women such as the American poet and best-selling author Tricia Hersey. They argue that modern women suffer from a rest deficit.

Dr Fiona Barry is a Chinese health practitioner with a PhD in pharmacology who runs a women’s health centre in Cork. From what she sees in her clinics, most women are running on empty when it comes to rest.

Much of the pressure comes from combining motherhood with work outside the home. “Women had to fight hard for the right to work and progress in their careers,” says Barry. “Now, we can be professional working women as well as mothers. But the trouble is when we picked up the professional mantle, we never put down the mantle of primary homemaker and carer. We’re trying to do it all.”

She cites a 2023 study that followed 1,000 new parents in Britain. The study found that mothers lost an extra hour of sleep per night over the course of their baby’s first year compared to fathers who only lost 15 minutes.

Perhaps this isn’t surprising, considering that women typically get up to feed their babies. “But when the researchers followed up six years later, women were still losing half an hour’s sleep per night more than fathers,” says Barry. “It never seems to become equal.”

Hormonal changes

Research, including a University of Texas study from 2013, shows that women’s hormones may have a role to play in this rest deficit.

Dr Caoimhe Hartley, a GP, women’s health specialist and founder of menopausehealth.ie, often encounters exhausted patients.

Dr Caoimhe Hartley says fluctuating hormones affect women’s sleep. 

“The fluctuating hormones of the menstrual cycle, pregnancy, and breastfeeding, perimenopause and menopause can all disrupt sleep,” she says. “Studies in rats have shown that changes in blood oestrogen levels interfere with natural circadian sleep-wake rhythms so there’s definitely biology underlying some of the sleep changes that occur for women.”

Hartley identifies other factors that can impact women’s chances of getting some shut-eye. “They are more likely to be diagnosed with anxiety and depression, both of which increase the risk of insomnia. Restless leg syndrome is more common in women. And the night sweats of perimenopause are renowned for playing havoc with women’s sleep.”

Being always on can take a toll on our bodies. “Adequate rest and sleep is essential for physical and mental health,” says Hartley. “If we don’t get enough, it can have a negative effect on cognition, causing us to have difficulty remembering things, concentrating and making decisions. It can affect our mood, making us irritable and stressed. And it can take a toll on our general physical health, increasing our chances of developing hypertension, cardiovascular disease, glucose intolerance and obesity.”

It can also lead to burnout, something that a 2018 study by researchers at Montreal University found that women were at higher risk of than men. In a recent survey of more than 700 women in Britain, 93% said that they had experienced mental health issues as a result of poor work-life balance, further underscoring the message that many women are in dire need of rest.

Rest is about much more than sleep. According to sleep physiologist and director of deltasleep.ie Motty Varghese rest is “a period in which we cease activity, a period void of effortful, focused thought and distracting stimuli and that has the attributes of calmness and inner tranquillity”.

While the statistics show that women are losing sleep, there are signs of missing much-needed rest, too. “Middle-aged women today are a sandwich generation,” says Barry.

“They had their children later and are now trying to juggle the responsibilities of running a house and a family while working full time and caring for ageing parents. Traditionally, the physical and mental load of domestic and caring work has fallen more on women, and that’s still true to this day.”

Combine these values with our contemporary obsession with productivity and it’s easy to see how women are under unprecedented pressure.

“Because our culture glorifies being busy, rest has become synonymous with laziness,” says Barry. “And with the cost-of-living crisis driving us to work harder than ever, we have less and less downtime.”

Seven types of rest

Dr Fiona Barry advises that different rest types help us to recharge energy levels.
Dr Fiona Barry advises that different rest types help us to recharge energy levels.

Barry advises time-poor women to learn from the American physician, researcher and author Dr Saundra Dalton-Smith (drdaltonsmith.com), who has identified seven different types of rest: Physical, mental, emotional, social, sensory, creative, and spiritual.

“For years, she has been saying that sleep doesn’t equal rest but is only one part of a much bigger picture.”

According to Dalton-Smith, physical rest can mean sleep but it can also mean restorative exercise like yoga or stretching.

Then there’s mental rest. We need this after focusing on cognitively demanding tasks, and it typically consists of short breaks in attention.

Those of us who prioritise the needs of others over our own can benefit from what Dalton-Smith calls emotional rest.

“Bottling up our feelings so that we can look after others will only leave us feeling depleted,” says Barry. “If we share our feelings with others, we can feel more emotionally rested as a result. If we also learn to say no when we don’t have the emotional bandwidth to do something, that will be a big help to us too.”

We need sensory rest because modern life can involve near-constant exposure to computer screens and the office environment’s bright lights and background noise, says Barry. “Unplugging our electronic devices can help by giving sensory rest to our overstimulated brains.”

Dalton-Smith’s types of rest also include spiritual rest, such as mindfulness and meditation, and social rest, which typically involves spending time with people who energise you. Finally, there’s creative rest, from baking, listening to music, and going out in nature to reading a book or gardening.

“Each of these types of rest offers ways to recharge our energy levels,” says Barry.

Varghese reminds us that it’s also vital to prioritise sleep. “Nurture your sleep by adopting good habits,” he says. “Maintain a consistent bedtime and wake time on weekdays and weekends. Focus on light exposure during the day and limit light exposure closer to bedtime. Avoid consumption of news via TV or social media close to bedtime as it can lead to cognitive or mental arousal. Don’t eat in the two to three hours before bedtime. And keep your bedroom dark, restful and cool.”

According to Hartley, rejecting the belief of constant productivity and actively choosing to slow down can revolutionise our lives.

“Taking time to do nothing, to rest and switch off can be productive in its own way,” she says. “It may take a bit of teasing out to find what works for you but prioritising sleep and rest is always worth it as we all need to physically and mentally recharge.”

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